Why You Should Fly Solo

    It’s our first instinct to call up our concert buddies and festie-besties to inform them when there’s a show coming to town that we absolutely must buy tickets to. But have you ever considered going to see the show alone? Being at a concert with a group of friends can make for some great bonding time; there’s just something about dancing like maniacs that brings people together. I know a lot of my own friendships flourish when music is around and a concert or festival is the ideal place for this.

     Having said that, a much different experience can be had when you decide to embark on the musical journey alone. Everything from not having to worry about carpooling and gas money, to meeting new people whom you may not have had the chance to talk to had you been with a group can make your experience much more enjoyable. Here’s why you should skip out on the big crowd and fly solo.

     You get to choose when you arrive, where in the crowd you want to be, and ultimately where the night will lead. It is MUCH easier to get to the front- which is definitely a perk of being alone.  

     On the contrary, sometimes it’s necessary to get out of the crowd and make your way to higher ground for some fresh air. I know there have been times that a friend wanted to move away from the front while I wanted to stay, so we separated. The massive amount of sweaty people in such a small place can be overwhelming at times, but we’re all there for one reason: the music. Being unaccompanied allows you to create your own adventure for the night without anyone else’s decisions determining your fate (say goodbye to waiting outside of port-a-potty row). However, it also puts you in a vulnerable position to anyone with bad intentions- so make sure you are in a safe place (both physically and mentally), before you set out.


     It can be a bit easier to meet and interact with new people in the crowd; being on your own makes you seem more approachable. Cruising the crowd as a lone wolf provides you with this awesome sense of anonymity. The surrounding sea of people have no idea who you are and therefore have no expectations of you. Music becomes the binding source amongst people in the crowd; everyone in the same place, here to listen to music which they all have a common liking of. This extinguishes the idea that everyone is a stranger, because in some way they have all smiled to the same song that is playing. Making you and the sea of people a lot more closely related than what meets the eye.

     Post show rituals almost always consist of munching out while recapping the night. But talking about how sick a set was and how dope the stage looked puts the night far too quickly in the past. The experience you have alone is something that will live on without the need to explain it to someone else.

     If you think about it, the majority of memories you revive from a show are often the ones you can’t really put into words.Those feelings are the same ones that connect the sea of people you were surrounded by- you were never really alone the whole time.

     Tame Impala was the first concert I ever attended without the comfort of friends. Tame for me is one of those “know every lyric to every song” kind of bands. Not even the humbling walk in the dark alone could stop me from seeing them. Now I get chills every time I think about how my lips moved in sync with lead singer Kevin Parker’s. I was able to get rib-crushingly close to the front of the stage; my phone even got thrown up there by a wild dancer’s flailing arm. Had I been with friends, I doubt the level of intimacy I felt with the music production would have been as high. Maybe I would’ve had a less lonely walk home, but the tunes were keeping me company in my head the whole way.

Glenn Ross Photography

Glenn Ross Photography

Written by: Melanie Gordon

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